Summary of “Models: Attract Women Through Honesty” by Mark Manson: This book about seducing women is not your average pick-up book. Its purpose is to teach men to make themselves more attractive quickly, to be able to hold a stimulating conversation with a woman. By overcoming their nerves when speaking to an attractive woman, by becoming funny and capable of holding a conversation.
By Mark Manson, 2011, revised edition 2016
Note: This is a guest chronicle written by William from the blog www.charisme-seduction.fr.
Chronicle and summary of “Models: Attract Women Through Honesty” by Mark Manson
How many opportunities have passed you by because you didn’t dare speak to that girl who walked by you in the street, or in the bar, or at the supermarket?
And yet, you continue to use the same lousy techniques to meet girls. You sign up to dating applications. Or worse… you add girls on social media, hoping to get a positive answer….
Lies, lack of courage, and above all, perverse habits are your daily life.
But a solution exists: rewire your brain to rewrite your mental beliefs and your attitude towards women.
Now it’s not simple, and it will take more than a few adjustments. Nevertheless, by working on your personality and holding conversations with women, you will see significant results.
You can change from the man who chases after women by lying to them, to an honest and charming man, capable of attracting women without any manipulation.
In some way, you will move from being an incel (involuntary, frustrated single man) to an alpha male (attractive and skilled).
Mark Manson offers readers a 5-step action plan that we will look into in more detail in this summary:
- Analyse and understand the reality of male-female relations and seduction
- Build a strategy
- Confront this strategy with the world around you
- Take action and know where to begin to please women
- Hone your conversation and language skills to seduce
Part 1: Reality
In the first part of his book Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, Mark Manson outlines the 3 fundamental facts that every man should know when he sets out to become attractive to women.
What is interesting with these 3 fundamentals is that they go against the beliefs that most of us seem to have.
Let’s say you decide to speak to a woman in the street. What are you going to say to her? Are you going to be upfront with her? Or on the contrary, will you start by asking her something that has nothing to do with what you really want to know?
In most cases, people are lacking in honesty…
Now let’s try with another example before looking at the three fundamentals in detail.
To be a real man, and have a chance of chatting up that gorgeous woman at work, should you tell her that you have a fear of taking the elevator?
In truth, Vulnerability is also a strength, where most men would tend to see it as a weakness.
1 – Non-neediness
If there is one thing that will destroy any chance for a man with few opportunities to go out with women (1 or 2 dates per month), it’s neediness!
When men are not used to being in contact with women, they can act very strangely as soon as they find themselves in their company.
Whether by text or over the course of a conversation, the girl will soon figure out that you are desperate to appeal to her… And that is very unattractive!
Like the author says: “A man’s attractiveness is inversely proportional to how needy he is.”
In fact, that is why men who are very charming are even more seductive. Their capacity to choose and to take their time with women is a charming advantage.
So how can you go about this? How can you resist the temptation to answer the phone on the first ring? Or to be free on any evening of the week to see her?
You need to make yourself a priority when it comes to women. If you have plans, tell her. You will become a kind of challenge and you will increase your appeal.
2 – Vulnerability
The second essential fundamental when it comes to having a seductive personality, is to use your vulnerability as a strength.
When we talk about vulnerability, men tend to associate it with weakness, a lack of manliness. They make it a negative point.
In contrast to what you might think, sharing our faults and weaknesses makes us human. Women find this very attractive, when they are relatively mundane weaknesses (vertigo, emotions, phobias…).
Showing yourself to be vulnerable is not just about sharing your weaknesses. It is also about taking chances: making a joke that may fall flat, introducing yourself to a group of strangers, defending an opinion…
It is about taking risks, exposing yourself, and therefore demonstrating courage.
On a side note, if you want to start chatting up women in the street, and if those women sense that you are not very confident, don’t be afraid to say it.
For me, someone who has almost maximum confidence when it comes to women, I always try to make them believe that I am not in the habit of doing it…. It is a way to reassure them.
3 – The gift of Truth
Finally, the third fundamental pillar to know when you are a man, is to be a straight talker with the gift of truth.
Mark Manson illustrates this point with a personal story from a friend of his. This person was in the habit of being too upfront with women. He was not shy about bringing up sexual topics when introducing himself! And while he was regularly turned down, there were still some girls who fell for his charms.
He was different to other men who wanted to talk to women to get their number and would hang around them for 10 minutes before getting to the point…
Beware however! Mark Manson tested the same pick-up lines as his friend…and got nowhere. Because being frank is not enough, you must be true to yourself in the way you act.
Part 2: Strategy
In the second part of his book Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, Mark Manson moves away from theory and moves onto strategy. His method considers the things that we have talked about previously when it comes to men and their power to seduce women.
But just before setting up this strategy, it is good to remember something: there are 3.6 billion women in the world, and they fall into 3 categories:
- Unreceptive (not interested or in a relationship)
- Neutral (they do not reject you, but they don’t make an effort)
- Receptive (attracted to you, sexually and emotionally)
Do not waste your time on neutral and unreceptive women. They are a source of distraction and frustration that will damage your self-esteem and drain your energy.
What’s more, it is perfectly normal that you will not “match” with more than 95% of women. It is a question of statistics. Remember that good mutual chemistry is rare. So don’t be frustrated at being turned down. You should be asking questions about what makes people happy in a couple.
Now that the groundwork is done, it is time for readers of the book Models: Attract Women Through Honesty to discover the 3 steps of the Mark Manson strategy!
They are the 3 ways to access vulnerability and remove neediness You will have the opportunity to work on these areas independently. But know that making progress in one area will have positive consequences on the others:
- Create an attractive life
- Overcome fears and anxiety that are holding you back from social, intimate and physical relationships
- Master how you express your emotions and communicate fluidly
If you can work on these 3 aspects of your life, then you will become more attractive before you even start chatting up women.
Part 3: Honest Living
In the third part, the author invites us to apply the advice given above in real life. It is quite interesting to find a writer who actually cares about how his advice is put into practice by his readers. Especially in matters of seduction. There can be a huge gap between the theory as taught in a book or training course, and what happens on the ground.
To start practising, you first have to know where to find women. Well, just like men, they are everywhere: in the street, in the workplace, at your gym, at the coffee shop, in nightclubs, in your building, in a bar…
- The first step consists of putting in place some criteria and finding out what qualities you appreciate in a woman. Globetrotter, sporty, cerebral, party goer…
Once you figure this out, you will know where to go most often to chat to women. A word of warning – the things that attract you are not necessarily directly related to the things you love to do.
- The second part consists of understanding that women do not think or act in the same way as men. Where men generally pay attention to a woman’s physique, and then her personality, and then the way she talks… women act differently. A woman can find a man charming, even if he is not incredibly handsome (symmetric face, muscular, virile…). Social standing, conversation, charisma and charm are far more important.
Mark Manson recommends creating an attractive and fulfilling life. It is his way of encouraging his readers to work on their personal development.
- Having said this, physical appearance must not be neglected. This is what Part 3 is going to take into account. As a charisma coach, I know that you can win a lot of points very quickly with women by making just a few minor adjustments.
Here is a list of things that will help you to perfect your style rapidly.
- Wear clothes that fit you
- Know how to match the colours of your outfit
- Have a dress style that matches your personality
- Take care of your physical health
- Improve your voice
- Be aware of your body language
- Develop your character
Through this practical advice, you will see that you can reach what the author calls the “baseline level of independence and self-sufficiency”. If you cannot live above this baseline, all of your efforts with women may well end in the same way… failure.
Part 4: Honest Action
Finally, we are here. It is time for Part 4 of the book, but above all it is the moment readers have been waiting for – action!
Despite what you may be telling yourself and the fictional stories that have crossed your mind, this is how reality looks for Mark Manson:
“Apathy and avoidance isn’t the worst response when avoiding our fears with women in that it usually can’t last forever. We’re biologically compelled to pursue women so at some point, instinct will win over.”
So, you have to sweep away all thoughts like “I’m not good enough for her” “I’ve got no chance with her”, “I must be too tall”…
But the author is pragmatic. He knows that you feel anxious about going up to a woman. Here is a tip that you can apply the next time you want to talk to a pretty girl.
Tell yourself that she supports you in your endeavour, even if she is not interested in your personality or your physical appearance. Simply being brave enough to speak to her, to break the ice, is something admirable.
And if you need a long-term method to overcome your social anxiety, there are dozens available, but here is a simple one.
Anxiety acts in the same way as an athlete’s muscle. If you give up sport for one month, then some of the results will disappear. The same applies to fear and anxiety. You have to work on your ability to step outside your comfort zone, just a little every day. Ask someone the time, speak to a small group of men, start a conversation to get some information, speak up in class…
This requires nothing more than targeted and gradual efforts.
Once you can set your anxiety to one side, you can start to engage with another phenomenon that is really and truly attractive: courage!
Here’s a quote: “The bolder your action, the greater attraction you’re going to create. The bolder the action, the more vulnerability you show, and the more you polarize responses.”
Having said that, it is all very well to create a really attractive life and have a lot of courage when it comes to women, but if you have not worked on how you speak, you are not going to hold a woman’s interest for very long. This is why Mark Manson gives us a final, fifth section in his book.
Part 5: Honest Communication
In this last section, I am going to try to give you as much advice as possible about the art of speaking and the secrets of communication.
Unfortunately, in my line of business, I know that there are at least 100 tips that I could give you to improve your communication: voice, storytelling, body language, leadership, rhetoric, diction, posture, eyes contact, type of question, vocabulary, power games…
So, I will stick to the 6 tips that Mark Manson gives on how to talk to women and seduce them.
- Find a good topic of conversation: sport, travel, cooking, reading, cinema, childhood memories, studies or your dream job…
- Use more humour. A good sense of humour shows your best side. Let’s not forget that humour is a way of opening up to the other person to reveal your personality.
- Learn to tell stories and exciting anecdotes to shine in conversation with a woman. We all love a good story, and the art of telling them well gives a person power. You will get people to listen by telling them a good story. But you will also be in a position to arouse certain emotions in the other person.
- Make logical suppositions in the form of statements rather than entering into a game of questions and answers like every other man.
- Add depth to what you are saying. Instead of saying “I enjoyed the last Transformers film”, you should say “I loved the last Transformers film. It reminded me of my childhood and my little brother who was always playing with his figurines”. This is a stronger sentence emotionally and it is easier for the other person to handle.
- Become capable of cold reading. This means that you should be able to read into her gestures, her posture and her micro-expressions to be one step ahead of what she is thinking. Of course, not many people possess this skill. It will probably be the last thing you achieve in your personal development.
So, there you have it – 6 tips to put in place for your next romantic date. I have deliberately reworked the order of these points in order to allow you to focus on the simplest ones first.
Now the ball is in your court to turn the way you communicate into a weapon of seduction in every encounter (or with every kind of woman).
Conclusion to “Models: Attract Women Through Honesty” by Mark Manson:
In his book “Models: Attract Women Through Honesty” by Mark Manson, you can understand the methods that will allow you to become a much more remarkable man. Whether in terms of charisma, mindset or conversation, this book will transform any man who takes the time to read it.
It will also help you to understand women better, without falling into the game of seducer/manipulator. By banking on your strengths, your honesty and your personality, you will succeed in creating some great romantic encounters.
In contrast to many books, blog articles and YouTube videos that are all alike, teeming with “pickup techniques”, this lifestyle guide is directly inspired by the author’s stories. That is what makes it good!
Speaking for myself, I loved Mark Manson’s book! It allowed me to understand that there are many people who are not going to click with my personality (and vice versa). And that failures in romance and relationships are normal – successfully finding the right person is what is amazing!
I intend to remember the 3 fundamental pillars of seduction: Non-neediness, Vulnerability and Honesty!
Together, these three traits form the social and psychological skills that every man needs to become attractive in the eyes of women. Independent, so that a girl does not feel pressured and responsible for you. Vulnerable to be less cold and make your personality more human. And finally, Honesty, because it is the pillar on which mutual trust is built, as well as the opportunity for a relationship to last.
William from charisme-seduction.fr
- Simple explanations, frank, funny and easy-to-understand sociological insight.
- Examples drawn from the author’s experience with women to illustrate the points and theories.
- Action plan at the end of the book to apply the advice and make genuine changes.
- Simple principle of personal development (charisma, conversation, listening…)
- No prevention with regard to online dating and its codes
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The five main parts of the book Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson
1. Part 1: Reality
2. Part two: Strategy
3. Part 3: Honest Living
4. Part 4: Honest Action
5. Part 5: Honest Communication
Frequently Asked Questions about Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson
1- What was the public’s reaction to Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson?
The first book about seduction to attract women successfully, this book was first published in French on 12 September 2019 by Editions Eyrolles. It met with considerable success in bookshops and online after its publication and hundreds of thousands of copies have been sold all over the world.
2- What was the impact of the book Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson?
The book gave men the opportunity to overcome all the obstacles related to chatting up women by giving them very practical and very simple tips about how to successfully attract women in an honest manner.
3- Who is Mark Manson speaking to in his book Models: Attract Women Through Honesty?
This book is for a young, male, single audience. It should be a source of inspiration for any man who finds it had to seduce or attract a woman.
4- What are the 3 categories of women that exist according to the author?
5- What are the 6 tips Mark Manson gives about how to talk to women and seduce them?
- Find a good topic of conversation
- Use humour
- Learn to tell a good story
- Make logical suppositions
- Add depth to your words
- Be capable of cold reading
The strategies to attract women versus strategies to avoid women
|Strategies to attract women
|Strategies to avoid women
|Create an attractive life
|Have an unattractive life
|Successfully overcome fears and anxiety
|Be afraid and anxious
|Master how you express your emotions
|Have no control over your emotions
|Communicate with ease
|Have trouble communicating
Who is Mark Manson?
Mark Manson is American. He was born on 9 March 1984. An internationally acclaimed writer, he is also a consultant in personal development, an entrepreneur and a blogger. He has been writing articles and publishing books since 2010 on a variety of themes, from personal development to value systems, emotional intelligence, interpersonal and romantic relationships, etc.
Apart from the book “Models: Attract Women Through Honesty” in which he offers concrete strategies to attract women, he also wrote the books “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck”, “Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope”, etc.